I ended up bringing my son with me to Florida, along with my mother in law. We’re staying at a hotel, and my MIL is watching Baby J while I’m working. I’m blessed it was able to work out this way, that I wouldn’t be away from him for two weeks. Baby J did a fabulous job on the drive down here. Yes, he’s getting older, but he still tends to fuss/cry/scream in the car when he’s in it longer than a couple of hours. Other than some whining here or there, he gave us no real drama!
I’ve been busy working, and when I’m not working, I’m spending time with Baby J and my MIL. So that’s why I haven’t really put up any new posts, other than giveaways. Today we were able to spend some time relaxing, but tomorrow I’m driving down south to a city near Miami, so it’ll be a looooong day.
Yesterday evening we went to Mickey’s Not So Scary Halloween Party at Disney World. It’s an event that I used to attend myself, and I’m thrilled I was able to introduce it to Baby J. I’ll write a post about it soon, giving some tips on how to attend with a toddler.
Simon & Schuster sent me a copy of The Tender Soldier by Vanessa M. Gezari to review.
On the day Barack Obama was elected president in November 2008, a small group of American civilians took their optimism and experience to Afghanistan, then considered America’s “good war.” They were part of the Pentagon’s controversial attempt to bring social science to the battlefield, a program, called the Human Terrain System, that is driven by the notion that you can’t win a war if you don’t understand the enemy and his culture. The field team in Afghanistan that day included an intrepid Texas blonde, a former bodyguard for Afghan president Hamid Karzai, and an ex-military intelligence sergeant who had come to Afghanistan to make peace with his troubled past. But not all goes as planned. – from The Tender Soldier by Vanessa M. Gezari
Due to my experiences as a U.S. Army public affairs specialist in Afghanistan, I’m already familiar with Human Terrain Teams and aware there is controversy surrounding them. Yet, I didn’t know the full story or understand exactly what the issues are from an anthropological view…until now.
I first heard about Paula Lloyd’s death in 2009 from the Soldiers who worked with her and her team. I could see the horror in their eyes and hear the pain in their voices. The story stuck with me these several years. I researched about Lloyd when I returned home in 2010, but I could never find much information about her. She died in service of her country, but seemed to make little impact in the media.
The Tender Soldier opens with the ill-fated story of Paula Lloyd, Don Ayala, and Clint Cooper. Gezari drew me in with this tragedy, and I wanted to know more. Why was this team there? What events led to this horrific conclusion? What happened afterwards? After the opening, the book goes back in time by a few years and discusses the different men and women whose influence led to the creation of the teams. Then Gezari goes on to recount personal experiences and conversations she shared with such teams while in Afghanistan. Annamaria Cardinalli is one such social scientist who influenced Gezari. I met Cardinalli in 2009 on Forward Operating Base Ramrod:
This book was fascinating. It’s almost an information overload. You probably won’t sit down and read the entire book in one sitting, at least I didn’t. The characters are hard to keep track of, and there are a great deal of moving pieces. I did feel that it was organized, though; each piece of information was in its logical place, and the book flowed.
It’s easy to say this book criticizes the Army. But I think the bigger picture here is an intent to expose a serious flaw in past military and political thinking that the U.S. has tried to remedy. We pluck men and women from suburban Texas and inner city New Jersey, send them overseas, and expect them to be 18-year-old diplomats.
If you’re interested in learning more about U.S. military culture, counterinsurgency operations, the war in Afghanistan, and Human Terrain Teams, I recommend picking up a copy of The Tender Soldier. Find it here:
If you know what the Defense Travel System is, you’re military or a DOD employee. There’s also a 99.9% chance that you share my feelings toward DTS. In the near future, I’ll be traveling to complete two weeks of annual training for my Army Reserve unit. Before I leave, I have to fill out online forms regarding the trip and then wait for the forms to be approved. I’ve spent almost all of today and a fair amount of yesterday trying to input information. The system is completely counterintuitive, but the worst part is that it takes two or three minutes for every single page to load. Every so often, I get kicked off and have to log back in. That alone takes at least five minutes each time. If the forms don’t get kicked back to me for any changes, it should be approved soon. Then some of this weight on my shoulders will lift!
I had been dreading these two weeks, because I’ve never been away from Baby J longer than a night (once). I know; it’s just two weeks. I also realize that plenty of dual-military couples do this, but that’s exactly why I’m not planning on staying in. I’m not willing to be away from my son and any future children, especially when their father is underway or deployed. By the way, my opinion is not a negative commentary on dual-military couples. I’m not judging you at all! We all have different circumstances and needs.
Anyway, I’m at the point that I’m looking forward to leaving, even though that means being away from Baby J. The sooner I’m gone; the sooner I can do my job; and then the sooner I can get home.
I plan to keep up with reviews while I’m gone. I’ll have most evenings off as well as Internet access. Since I won’t have toddler distractions or have to worry about housework, etc., maybe I can even get ahead! Obviously, I’m taking my laptop with, as well as a few review products. There are several that I’m ready to write-up right now; I just need the time.
So that’s what’s up with me right now. As soon as I get off here, I need to tackle some laundry, packing, leaving emergency numbers for my MIL, etc.