Thank goodness for old friends!

When I say old, I don’t mean age…just the length of time I’ve known them. 🙂 This afternoon, one of my oldest friends and matron of honor (though she’s not at all matronly) moved into town with her husband and kids. Her husband got a job here recently, so it was a quick move and until a couple of months ago, unexpected. I’ve been slowly meeting new people since we’ve moved here, but it’s still a feeling of relief and happiness to know that I have people close by that I for sure can rely on. My husband’s ship is gearing up to start sea trials again…which means he’s going to be gone for weeks at a time up until his next deployment.

I chuckle now when I think about how many, many years ago I used to think it would be so romantic to be the wife of a service member. There’s something about a man in uniform, right? What was I thinking!? Yeah, there’s nothing romantic about it.

For example, moving from Florida to Virginia alone in my last trimester of pregnancy was hard. I was working full time, plus monthly obligations to the Army Reserve. I had to choose and secure our apartment long distance. Arrange for the movers. Clean our old apartment. If my husband had seen me almost 8 1/2 months pregnant, sorting through stored teaching supplies and military gear, lifting/carrying/dragging furniture to the dumpster, squeezing a solid wood desk in my compact car…he would’ve freaked out!

You have to be a strong, independent, committed woman or man to survive being the spouse of a Soldier, Sailor, Marine, or Airman. I’m leaving Coasties out, cause they don’t count. Just kidding, just kidding! The Coast Guard is very important too. I think. 😉

Anyway, what is incredible is that some women move across country alone and pregnant and have several older children with them. It was just me, and it was hard enough!

I’ve been on both sides. I’ve been deployed, and I’ve been the one home, waiting. They are both very difficult, in very different ways. Honestly, I think it’s harder to be the family member. In my experience, when you’re deployed, you have very specific responsibilities, and that’s all you have to worry about. You get in a rut. Someone cooked my food, cleaned my toilet, and even washed my clothes. I didn’t worry about paying bills. My parents back in the States had my power of attorney, and they paid any bills I had. They even filed my taxes. All that concerned me was my public affairs job, day in and day out.

When my husband was deployed, he did wash his own clothes, and he cleaned. But I paid all his bills. I deposited checks for him. I renewed his vehicle tags and base stickers. I took over all his responsibilities outside of the military. I basically ran the household, and I missed J terribly.

I don’t talk about all of this much, because I don’t want to make it seem like I’m just whining or throwing a pity part. That’s not my intention at all. I’m just thankful for the people in my life who I can rely on if I need help!

If you know someone who has a loved one in the military…show them support, because it’s far from easy.

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It’s Fitness Friday! (Week 5)

It’s week five, but I have to confess that I didn’t post last week (week 4). My parents were visiting, and we ate out daily, and then my “Aunt Flo” came to visit…so there was no way I was getting on a scale! I also haven’t been to the gym in 2 weeks. Surprisingly, I did lose a little weight. I think it’s because I did a lot of walking, and even though we ate out, it wasn’t excessive, and I didn’t eat desserts.

Current Stats:

177 lbs. (a total weight loss of 18 lbs.)

Activities Performed:

Hours and hours of walking! Some leisurely, some brisk

Diet Changes:

I haven’t been doing a good job of logging into MyFitnessPal to keep track of calories. There are two reasons why. It’s been difficult for me to determine the calories of what I’ve been cooking for dinner and what I’ve been eating at restaurants.

I did eat a lot of calorie-laden foods like restaurant burgers and fries. I definitely didn’t eat enough veggies. I think I’m also using too much creamer in my coffee.

Next Week’s Goals:

I would love to get down to 175lbs.

I haven’t been losing weight quickly, so it’s iffy whether or not that will happen, but that’s my goal. Once I hit 175, I’m only 10 pounds away from my initial goal of 165lbs! That will be fabulous, because I’ll have a few more outfits in my wardrobe that I’ll be able to fit into.

I also plan to drink more water, cut back on creamer, and eat more veggies. All three of those goals are just good lifestyle choices, even if I wasn’t losing weight.

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It’s Fitness Friday! (Week 1)

I’m excited to join other mommy bloggers and their readers (and you too, I hope!) for Fitness Friday! Every Friday we’ll post our current stats (weight loss, inches, etc.), failures and/or successes, and goals for the following week. If you have a blog, you’re welcome to join us by posting as well!

Not a blogger? Post your info. in a comment below on this post, so we can encourage you! Our goal in posting is to motivate each other!

Visit here to see this week’s Fitness Friday linky at the bottom of that post. If you’re a blogger, add your own! Remember that bloggers will be adding their links throughout the day, so check back periodically, visit their blog posts, and help encourage them!

2 Months Before Pregnancy- 165 lbs.

Because this is my first week posting for Fitness Friday, I want to give you a little background info. Before I became pregnant with my son, I was about 165 lbs. The photo on the left shows me roughly 2 months before I got pregnant. Sorry, it’s not a great photo, but I’ve never liked having photos taken of me (I like taking photos of other people), so I don’t have many of myself. Being 165 lbs. wasn’t my best weight, but I still fit most of my clothes. My ideal weight is between 150-155 lbs., but only if I have a lot of muscle.

When I became pregnant with my son, I ballooned and gained at least 70 pounds. I always said I wasn’t going to be that pregnant woman, but I was. Within five days of giving birth, I lost about half of it, so obviously a chunk of the weight was baby/water retention. I settled at 195 lbs., and it was slow to come off.

I’ve heard many times that if you exclusively breastfeed, the pounds should melt off. But with me, they weren’t. I started using the MyFitnessPal app on my iPhone and realized that my portions were huge. I was averaging more than 600 calories for breakfast alone! I checked out for guidelines on losing weight while BFDing. After researching, I started aiming to eat 1500-1800 calories a day (plus exercise). This seems to be working!

My Goal:

I actually have two goals. Initially, I just want to reach my pre-pregnancy weight of 165 lbs. After that, I want to concentrate on my fitness level and end up somewhere around 150 lbs.

Current Stats:

I’m currently 182 lbs. at 5’10” tall. I was excited to find out a couple days ago that I can fit back into one pair of pre-pregnancy jeans. Granted, they are my “fat” jeans, but it’s progress, right? I think I’m probably about a size 16 in misses clothes.

Since I joined a gym a few weeks ago, and since I started using the MyFitnessPal app on my phone, I’ve lost about eight pounds.


While my son was napping this morning, I had the chance to shower quick and put some makeup on…didn’t make it to getting my hair fixed, but that’s probably too much to expect to get done all at one time with a needy baby in the house, right? =D My son never naps longer than 30 minutes at a time during the day, and usually it’s 15-20. Please excuse the poor quality of the photos! I snapped them on my iPhone in the bathroom mirror. I hope next time I can get hubby to take some photos of me.

And here we go:

Fitness Friday- Week 1- Side Shot
Fitness Friday- Week 1- Front Shot


Ugh! I’m so wide! That’s probably what I like the least about my figure right now. Yes, my arms are big with almost no muscle, and my tummy is still flabby. But I’m seeing improvements in those areas. My hip, thighs…really, the entire pelvic region…is just very, very wide. I know that many women experience widening of the hips when they have children, but I’ve always had wide hips. I don’t think it’s gotten worse (I hope not!); I think I’m just fat.

Activities Performed:

We were busy around the home this week, and I was only able to make it to the gym a couple of times. Actually, it may only have been once; I can’t remember! I also went to the park one evening with hubby and Mr. Stinky Pants, and we walked around for about 30 minutes at a good pace. We also climbed a steep hill. That’s not much, but it’s something.

I have to wait until my husband is home from work to watch our son before I can go to the gym, so that makes it a little more difficult to plan. His hours vary. I wouldn’t call this week a total failure when it comes to fitness, but next week I definitely need to do more.

Diet Changes:

As I mentioned above, I’m using the MyFitnessPal app on my phone, and keeping track of my calories is proving very, very effective at losing weight. I’m exclusively nursing my son, so I do have to be careful to reach a certain amount of calories every day in order to keep my milk supply up. This week, I did make a point to avoid junk food and sweets, and eat more veggies. I would say I was successful!

Next Week’s Goals:

Next week I plan on making it to the gym five times, and I also plan on staying for at least 45 minutes each time. I will continue to do a variety of cardio exercises, but also add in more strength training. There are many exercises (like leg lifts and pushups) that I can do in our home, and I need to be more disciplined at doing them regularly during the day. For meals, I’ll continue to track my calories, but add in more veggies, especially for snacks. My weight goal is to break the 180 lb. mark, and get into the 170s!

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